The Forty Rules of Love – Elif Shafak

‘Not so good, not so bad’

“Every true love and friendship is a story of unexpected transformation. If we are the same person before and after we loved, that means we have not loved enough. ”
– Elif Shafak , The Forty Rules of Love

The Forty Rules of Love is written by Elif Shafak, a French-born Turkish writer. The Forty Rules of Love is one of her best sellers.

The novel consists of two parallel narratives. It revolves around a story of an unhappily married Jewish housewife named Ella living in Northampton, Massachusetts working for a literary agency where she is given a book named “Sweet Blasphemy” by Aziz Zahara. The sweet blasphemy is the second narrative of this novel which a story of a 13th-century wandering Persian Sufi Dervish, Shams of Tabriz, and his inspirational relationship with Rumi, the greatest poet of the Sufi canon.

The book is a narration of the stories and writer did a good job. The narration of “Sweet Blasphemy” was quite confusing for me because it was shown from so many perspectives.

I got intrigued by the cover and name of the book and I will not deny that I had a great desire to finish reading this when I downloaded an ebook but it didn’t turn out to be so good.

‘Bastard of Istanbul’ was my first read of Elif Shafak, and strongly recommend this one if you’re keen to read the work of a writer.

Though ‘The Forty Rules of Love’ was a life-changing book for some of my friends who suggested me to read. So there’s no doubt that this one is one of kind Novel but I personally couldn’t relate it to that extent. As they as “Don’t judge a book by its cover” so stop judging and start reading.

Some of my favourite quotes from the book:

“Do not try to resist the changes that come your way, but let life live in you. Do not worry if you turn your life upside down. How can you know that the side that I am used to is better than the side that will come? ”
– Elif Shafak , The Forty Rules of Love 


“Whatever happens in your life, no matter how troubling things might seem, do not enter the neighborhood of despair. Even when all doors remain closed, God will open up a new path only for you. Be thankful! ”
– Elif Shafak , The Forty Rules of Love 


“At first you meet someone; a person who is completely different from all around you. A person sees everything with a different perspective, makes you change your perspective, and notices everything from the inside and from the outside. Imagine that you can keep a safe distance between you and him. Imagine you can sail and make your way through this beautiful storm, He threw you out and you can not control it. ”
– Elif Shafak , The Forty Rules of Love 


“Love cannot be explained, and can only be lived and tested. Although love can not be explained, it explains everything ”
– Elif Shafak , The Forty Rules of Love

Happy Reading !!!!


3 Comments Add yours

  1. TAJWAR FATMA says:

    Loved it how you described it and the quotes from the book 😍

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you so much Fatma 😉😊


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